Job & Own: from 16 to 18 it’s important for kids to do something for the world at large and get paid for it. Babysitting, mowing lawns, scooping ice cream, walking dogs- owning the responsibility of reporting on time, working diligently, having a good attitude, keeping commitments, and planning ahead are all important things to learn at this stage. Their ability to earn money and have savings is a gift made possible by your generosity, and they will need help securing that first outside job or turning a hobby into an entrepreneurial venture. Your time, connections, attitude, energy, and love are more important than your money as you help them become independent, (rather than “I-dependent”). Introduce them to the costs of more independence and consider charging them for services rendered or backing off some of their allowance. Up to now their stuff has actually been yours, and they are motivated to get a job so that they can own their own things. They’ll become more selective about their friends, clothes, activities, etc., letting go of some things and cling more dearly to others. This is a time to allow them to learn about how money works and become engaged in the ownership of money gifted to them, and if you have investments earmarked for college consider transferring unofficial ownership to them.
Suggested allowance: again, customize appropriately.
Suggested expectations: engaging with money as a source of positive energy.
Self-Development & Leverage: there are many ways to continue to invest in our kids and ourselves. In the 19-21 stage kids learn to be interdependent because nobody can accomplish much on their own; we all need good people, and people need us to be good. Help your kids maintain interconnectedness through summer jobs, inviting them to participate in the care of their homestead through chores when they are around, and schedule these in the mornings. The more people invested in their success, the less likely they are to give up, and the more likely they are to stay connected to the value of the experience not just the price. Your kids should be involved in all factors that go into paying for school, including having a say in how assets are liquidated, how much money is borrowed, and how much of a work-load to take on in order to actually learn. If they need to borrow money it’s best to go to the bank and apply in front of someone they know; kids at this age should be able to make a case that they are a good risk, and the bank or others extending credit should be clear about their expectations. At this stage you’re really there to encourage, support, and ground your kids. As long as they know you’re there for them they can feel free to reach for the sky. The challenge at this point is to let them go and allow them to make small mistakes that help them learn without snowballing into something that can take your financial house down with it.